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ABC Everyday. Print content Print with images and other media. Print text only. Print Cancel. The 'honeymoon phase' dies eventually and we all need to accept that "Heightened feelings of passions and sexual drive" best describe the honeymoon period, Ms McKimmie says. Couples doing long distance, for example, will likely feel it for longer, Mr Gale-Baker says.
What spark do we lose and how do we deal with that loss? Email address. Lust is easy, love isn't. If you want both in a long-term relationships then you need to work at it.
I'm in love with a man but worry about never being with a woman again. What to do when things get routine in the bedroom. Look at sex as an opportunity to get to know your partner better over time. Have gentle, loving-tender, intimate, and highly erotic sex.
Break up the routine and try new things as sexual needs change. Set the mood for intimacy before TV or work dulls your passion. A light meal along with your favorite music and wine can set the stage for great sex. The good news is that allowing your partner to influence you can reignite the spark you once enjoyed. In fact, Dr. Gottman reminds us that friendship is the glue that can hold a marriage together:. Even if you are not a touchy-feely person, increasing physical affection and emotional attunement can help you to sustain a deep, meaningful bond.
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Follow Terry on Twitter , Facebook , and movingpastdivorce. Search for:. Foster Emotional Intimacy A good sexual relationship is built on emotional intimacy and closeness. Change your pattern of initiating sex Maybe you are denying your partner or coming on too strong.
Hold hands more often According to author Dr. Allow tension to build Our brains experience more pleasure when the anticipation of the reward goes on for some time before we receive it. Separate sexual intimacy from routine Plan intimacy time and avoid talking about relationship problems and household chores in the bedroom. Carve out time to spend with your partner Try a variety of activities that bring you both pleasure.
Focus on affectionate touch Offer to give your partner a back or shoulder rub. Practice being more emotionally vulnerable during sex Share your innermost wishes, fantasies, and desires with your partner. According to Masini, the more time that passes in a relationship, the more effort you may need to put in to sustain the passion. There are things you can do to promote passion in a relationship — but if you do nothing, chances are, it will fade.
Beyond just familiarity and comfortability, Masini says there are other issues that can compromise passion. Brushing issues under the rug, not spending time on them, or not finding a mutually agreeable solution will affect your relationship in the passion department — even when the issues have nothing to do with love and sex.
If you feel like the passing is lacking, Masini says the first step is to figure out why — and then start doing something about it ASAP.
The good news? That may mean surprising your SO with a thoughtful gift once in a while, putting in some extra effort while getting ready on date night or making more time on the weekends to re-connect with them. By Rebecca Strong. Gifts have been more practical than romantic. Your weekends no longer include QT as a couple.
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