Friend who is competitive

By Amanda Chatel. By Kate Ferguson. By Averi Clements. By Lyndsie Robinson. By Sarah Burke. By Amy Horton. Search Search for:. About Contact Privacy Policy. Facebook Instagram Pinterest. Tough Love. We want to be seen, heard, validated and be an accepted member of the group. It will be easier for her to open up and give the same to you in return.

ASK yourself what the motivation is behind the competitiveness. If your friend simply needs you to be her audience and has no interest in your achievements, take a step back and give the friendship some room to settle. Set around a group of university friends in the s, it's the perfect example of competitive friendship and a reminder that rivalry is normal and experienced across many generations.

A boaster is also happy with an audience. Your competitive friend will broadcast his skills and accomplishments whether you are alone together or with a group of friends, teachers, team members or family. A competitive friend must get credit for the things she does.

She may even try to grab some of the praise that you rightly deserve or go as far as taking credit for your achievements. For example, if you happen to do well on your finals, your friend may want to take the credit for going with you to the library to study without acknowledging all the hard work you put into your assignments. One of the worst cases of competitiveness is when your friend attempts to sabotage your efforts so that you look bad while he comes out looking better.

If you are working on a task together, he may secretly undo what you have done. He may try to mislead you. You know how it goes. And, whenever we head home after spending time with them, we find ourselves feeling thoroughly drained. Which makes sense, we guess: wearing a permanent game face and humble-bragging for hours on end will do that to a person. It was uncomfortable and juvenile, and I found it very confusing.

She earns more than me, so can usually make it happen. If I see a friend of mine has reached a certain career milestone, like writing a book for example, I feel this urge to take something on or find something to prove that I can do the same thing.